The ups and downs, the highs and lows, the peaks and troughs – call it whatever you will. In the world of independent consulting, moving forward is about acknowledging the past, accepting the things you can’t change, and acting on the things you can. And if the ride has been rough, and the quiet times have been a little too much to bare, then there’s no time like today to grab that muddy beast by the scruff of the neck and get started on succeeding.
We look at a few ways to overcome adversity, and get yourself back onto your A-Game.
1. Love the lesson, not the outcome
Whether a failed relationship or something more mundane – once you’ve moved past the bitterness of heartache and loss, taking a more methodical and pragmatic look at past experiences that may turned out to be rockier than intended, is the first step to moving on from the hold it still has on you. It may have been a failed project that you weren’t quite ready for, or a broken customer relationship which appears to be 'un-fixable'. Take some time, look at what happened, identify the lesson – and learn from it. Separate the lesson from the emotions tied up in the exchange and you will soon start to identify a pattern that sets you on the course for new and exciting developments.
2. Take the truth, apply it, and discard the rest.
This is the difficult one – one that requires 100% honesty, as you sit alone, in your office, with nobody else to account to other than yourself. Dealing with criticism is never easy – no matter how much we try to explain that it’s ‘useful’, or that it ‘builds character’. Sure, most of that is true – but often, as independent consultants, one gets stuck in explaining away the benefit of the criticism in the first place – purely as a coping mechanism to overcome rejection. In every story there are 3 sides: Your side, your opponent’s side and the truth. So if you’re facing a challenge that appears to be holding you back from fulfilling your consultant potential – discard your opinions, discard your opponent’s opinions, and face the truth. Apply it. Learn from it. And then move on.
3. Plan for the Future
Don’t dwell. Very few find aimless dwellers inspiring. Armed with a set of action points that are true (point number 2 above) and insightful (point number 1 above), you have the perfect foundation to begin afresh – an opportunity to become the best at what you do, again. Dwelling on things that we cannot change simply holds us back, and robs us from precious time that we could be using to grow. Once you have your toolkit of lessons and plans, then point number 4 below is a natural follower.
4. Get busy doing.
Action stations, ready, and GO! You are doing what you do today because you’re good at it. You’re set apart from the rest because your expertise and skills are desired, required and more than enough. So while it’s easy to lose sight and focus on things that are not working, it’s time to take the plan you’ve put in place, and start getting things done. Whether your first step is a phone call, or whether it’s attending a meeting, or whether it’s something more challenging like restoring a broken business relationship – this first step you take is the start of the rest of your independent consulting life. And when you’re on your way Doing, you’ll soon be open to opportunity that lies ahead – whether you can see it right now, or not.
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